Setting Boundaries and Saying No

www.inkthinkerblog.com — This week, an organization that I absolutely love and have spoken for many times invited me to put on a workshop for them. Flattering, of course, but also frustrating. It’s a great group and I get a lot out of presenting and attending their presentations, but I frankly cannot afford to give my time away the way I have been the last couple of years. So what do to?

I took a couple of deep breaths, turned to three trusted tact gurus for some input, and told the group that I would be delighted to help them and since I am out of volunteer time, I would be happy to give them a major discount on my regular speaking fee in light of our long-term relationship. Sounds good, right? Well, I thought so, but I guess when you’re used to having all of your speakers come in for free and don’t really have a budget, any amount of money is too much. Which is a shame, really, especially when you’re a member organization.

The end result, as of now, anyway, is that I had to decline. I’m hopeful that something will change for them, but I just can’t do it for nothing. And yes, I’m the first person to say that the exposure and the authority are very valuable, but unfortunately exposure and authority aren’t paying my bills right now.

This may be selfish, but I think a big part of volunteering your time is having more respect for yourself afterward. When you get to a position where you have less respect for yourself as a result of your time contribution, that’s when you need to draw the line. And that’s where I am right now. I’m going to limit myself to one freebie per organization I belong to and everything else paid.

It’s hard to say no, especially when I would really like to do it, but if I don’t set the boundaries now, I’m going to be miserable later. Besides, I’m totally worth paying for.

So who wants to hire me as a speaker? ;]

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FreelanceSwitch Survey (with prizes!)

www.inkthinkerblog.com — Kristen Fischer tipped me off to the global freelancer survey at FreelanceSwitch. From the survey landing page:

The First Annual Global Freelancer Survey for 2007

Freelancers by nature usually work on their own, as such we often don’t really know what others are doing, charging and thinking. This survey aims to compile our collective knowledge for the benefit of freelancers everywhere! It takes about 10 minutes to complete…

Take a few minutes to share your experiences, and enter to win some seriously cool prizes.

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Welcome to Inkthinker’s New Home!

www.inkthinkerblog.com — It’s not perfect, but it’s getting there. Most of the content has been imported from http://inkthinker.blogspot.com, and I’m hoping to have all of it in place by next week once I figure out what’s missing. I’m also looking forward to getting the hang of this awesome new template to make navigation super easy for you!

Comments? Suggestions? Please share!

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One More Reason to Love Craigslist

(www.inkthinkerblog.com) — Subject: Freelancing at [major regional magazine]

Message:

Hi there Kristen,Another editor here at the magazine found your resume on Craigslist and passed it along to me. I edit our [special publication coming up soon], which includes [details about what they’re looking for]. The next issue comes out [later this year]. …The copy deadline would be [XYZ]; we pay [$XX]/word. Let me know if you’d like to pitch anything.

[Love, Magazine Editor]

How cool is that? The really funny thing is that pitching this publication was on my list of things to do this week. Ah, timing.

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One of the Coolest Things I’ve Ever Seen

www.inkthinkerblog.com — Despite what the person who initially showed it to me thinks, it’s not a travesty. It’s brilliant.

If you’re in the feed reader, click here to see an animated version of the Bayeux Tapestery, which is as long as a football field. My two favorite parts are when Carmina Burnana kicks in and when the monster sound goes off. Ahh, technology. How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.

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